We’re Never Finished

March 31, 2014

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We are never finished.

There is always more to learn.

A new mountain to climb.  New things to discover.

Perfect, done, and arriving do not exist.

We’re never finished.

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There’s a lot of talk today about single people feeling bad because its Valentine’s Day and they’re without a significant person in their lives. Sure it can be hard to see your co-worker getting a huge delivery of beautiful flowers while your desk goes empty. Hearing all about your friend’s plans for a romantic dinner when you have none, can also be tough.

But when you take a further look, is this really the truth that we need someone else to make us feel good today?  That we have to feel bad that we don’t have that significant person present in our lives right now?

I think if we look closer, we just see conditioned thinking.  The underlying thought is: I need someone else to complete me.

Eeek, really?

There’s a lot of social conditioning perpetuating this thought too.

I’m not saying it isn’t great to find and connect with that special person.  I think most of us want someone wonderful to share life with.  I know I do, when the time is right.

But in the mean time, why not show up for yourself?  Why not give yourself what you’re longing to get from someone else?

The truth is that if you’re single on Valentine’s Day, it’s an opportunity.  It’s a chance to change your thinking and be your own Valentine.

Think about how you would want your Prince (or Princess) Charming – if he or she were in your life – to treat you today…

Would you go on a special date?

Would they write you a poem?

Would you cook a great meal together and set the table with pretty linens and flowers?

Would they give you a special gift?

Then get busy creating that experience for yourself.

Buy yourself a gorgeous bouquet.

Splurge on a special piece of jewelry.

Bake the most decadent chocolate cake – just for you.

Write yourself a sweet Valentine celebrating all that’s awesome about you.

Draw yourself a luxurious bath with candles, lavender salts, and some Billy Holiday playing the background.

Its time…be the one to really show up for you today.

Photo credit: Naguo Lisin


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